Writing to Reach You

At the very heart of my role as an Integrative Grief Support Specialist is the practice of witnessing 🖤

As Francis Weller has said, “Grief has always been communal, always been shared and consequently has traditionally been regarded as a sacred process. Too often in modern times our grief becomes private, carrying an invisible mantle of shame forcing our sorrow underground, hidden from the eyes that would offer healing.”

Writing to Reach You is an invitation to send me a letter about your grief, as an available path toward allowing your story to be received, witnessed, and embraced outside of your own heart- by someone who isn’t familiar with your experience, as a step in your journey toward healing.

The visible act and ritual of letter writing can be a tender way to usher your grief to a safe place of care outside of the depths of your heart and back into the world. I treat every story shared with me with privacy, humble love, honor, and gratitude, and have a private ritual of receipt and release that I conduct for each letter.

Writing to Reach You is of no cost more than the stamp and paper needed to send a letter. You can write anonymously. It doesn’t have to be revelatory, well written, etc. You don’t have to direct the letter to me, you can write Dear _____. Typos and grammar can be messy and all over the place. This is a space for your expression, there is no right or wrong way to do that.

Writing to Reach You is not offered as grief support, or as a grief support service, it’s just one human in the world who has lost a lot of her people since a young age, who has walked with others in their grief, now offering to be a place for your grief story to land.

I know what it is like to want or need that outlet and not know where to get it, so want to offer that to you. Because Writing to Reach You is simply a space to share your story and have it received and witnessed with care, please know that I will not be responding to letters. You do not need to expect a response or write with one in mind 🤍

I am here to witness your grief story, to hear the name of who you lost or what change you have been moving through in life. If you are walking with grief, old or new, and feel a desire to share a story, a word, a thought, etc about it with someone, follow the link below to my Writing to Reach You FAQ page for full details, address, and additional info about what Writing to Reach You is and is not before you send your letter 🤍

If you aren’t sure where to start, here are some prompts:

I lost…

I miss…

If you were here now…

It changed when…

I wish…

I’ve noticed…

I remember…

I forgot…

I never got to tell you…

I am learning to live without…

Or simply:

I don't know how to begin.

Or maybe you just have one word you want to share.

Things to know before you send a letter:

Please take a moment to read the *note below and also the information on the FAQs page. By sending your letter, you confirm that you have read, understand and agree to what is described on this page, and on the FAQs page- including how your letter will be received and ultimately released.

You will find the address to send your letter to at the end of the Writing to Reach You FAQs section.

Writing to Reach You is offered at no cost.

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*NOTE: Writing to Reach You is not professional grief support. It is a storytelling space through letter writing. It is a separate creative space outside of grief support for simply sharing a story about/reflecting on grief, loss, and change, and having that story witnessed. It is not intended for processing trauma, seeking advice, or receiving counseling, professional grief support or crisis support. If you are looking for counseling or therapeutic support for trauma processing, or with an ongoing or unsafe situation, or if you are in immediate danger or need urgent support, please contact an appropriate professional, crisis, or emergency service near you. Writing to Reach You is only available to adults 18 or older.  You must read the FAQS page before sending your letter. By sending your letter, you confirm that you understand and agree with the terms on the FAQs page and on this page.